lördagen den 21:a april 2007 - *läser, gråter, "ber", försöker*
"if i'm convinced that i'm not good enough, i will have a difficult time accepting someone into my life who thinks i am. it's the groucho marx syndrome of not wanting to like anyone who would want me in their club. the only way i can accept someone's finding me wonderful, is if i find myself wonderful. but to the ego, self-acceptance is death.
this is why we're attracted to people who don't want us. we know they're not into it from the gate. we pretend to be surprised later when we find ourselves betrayed and they leave after an intense but fairly short stay. they fit perfectly into our ego's plan: i will not be loved. the reason that nice, available people seem boring to us is because they bust us. the ego equates emotional danger with excitement, and claims that the nice, available person isn't dangerous enough.
the irony is that the opposite is true: available people are the ones who *are* dangerous, because they confront us with the possibility of real intimacy. they might actually hang around long enough to get to know us. they could melt our defenses, not through violence but through Love. this is what the ego doesn't want us to see. available people are frightening."
(marianne williamson: "a return to Love")
det slog mig häromkvällen: Flikkan är inte the one that got away. det är *jag* som är det...
this is why we're attracted to people who don't want us. we know they're not into it from the gate. we pretend to be surprised later when we find ourselves betrayed and they leave after an intense but fairly short stay. they fit perfectly into our ego's plan: i will not be loved. the reason that nice, available people seem boring to us is because they bust us. the ego equates emotional danger with excitement, and claims that the nice, available person isn't dangerous enough.
the irony is that the opposite is true: available people are the ones who *are* dangerous, because they confront us with the possibility of real intimacy. they might actually hang around long enough to get to know us. they could melt our defenses, not through violence but through Love. this is what the ego doesn't want us to see. available people are frightening."
(marianne williamson: "a return to Love")
det slog mig häromkvällen: Flikkan är inte the one that got away. det är *jag* som är det...
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